The fact that parents have got enough crap from us to handle makes me respect them a lot, but most parents fail to understand that their kids are individuals with unique abilities, tastes, opinions, goals, dreams and life path in general (as if that was not obvious enough). This could make them think that they are offering their kids the best and setting them up for a very successful life when in fact, they are doing the exact opposite.
In the country, to go through high school to college requires that the individual goes through series of exams which is ok, plus it's also like that in other places.
The problem comes when the results are out and the kid involved doesn't make the grade required to go for degrees like medicine, engineering, law and other degrees that are usually sort for. I wouldn't have any problem with the person trying over and over again if the degree that he or she is retaking the exams for is the course he or she really wants to do, but you see! in most cases, that's not the case.
Most of these individuals were forced to go for such degrees by their parents.
Parents could be forcing their kids to do one of these professional degrees just because of the mere fact that their kid would be the first graduate in that degree in their village or because the parents themselves weren't able to do those degrees but wished they did or because of other ridiculous reasons, trust me the reasons are always ridiculous. These reasons are both frustrating and funny though.
I don't know if they need a rabbi to tell them that their kids are unique or sooth sayers to announce to them that their kids have different career paths as individuals (usually they are always waiting for the later). It will also be very wrong for parents to be comparing their kids to another, not even if they are identical twins.
As a result of this I have seen people that stopped playing football because their parents said that they had to go through medical school, I have seen potential photographers that never came into existence because they were told that they won't make enough living from it, I have come in contact with writers that gave up because they were told that writing wasn't highly rated in the country, what about entrepreneurs that died off because they were told that they had to graduate and get a job to ensure a stable income. They are always seeing these things from a poverty, an ignorant and/or a 'let's play safe' point of view.
The individuals involved in situations like this are left tired and frustrated. I hope that sooner rather than later, things start taking turns for the better because this is not how torturous life is meant to be. Parents have to realise and respect the fact that their kids are individuals with their own personal goals, aims, opinions and ambitions in life.
"Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma - which is living with the result of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice. And the most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is sDOecondary" ~ Steve Jobs.
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